"If experience shapes who we are and experiences become memories, then memories can help us understand ourselves"

Positivity – Growth – Communication – Diversity

An authentic & honest diary

Chapter 42: Beautiful bonds

Human connection is beautiful. But having to let go of a close soul is painful, sometimes so unbearably painful that we lose our interest in rebuilding new connections. We might conclude that we will never again stumble upon a bond like the one we tragically lost…

Chapter 41: Sevenfould wisdom

Here I am, savouring pancakes with my flatmate on this Sunday morning. No better time to reflect on what insights the past week has brought to me, and these insights turn out to be rather diverse: from optimal time-management to the secret behind beauty…

Chapter 40: Closure

When a person keeps churning your mind and when your memories of them flood your conscious at whim, it’s a sign that you haven’t gotten closure with them yet.
What is it that causes your soul to flag this chapter with them as incomplete? And what remedies could possibly appease the internal upheaval which is stemming from this unfinished story?

Chapter 39: An unexpected insight into what life is all about

Sometimes when I draft a new piece of writing in my head, my train of thought takes unexpected corners and arrives at unforeseen insights. In this manner, my most recent ideas to write about either emotional pain or motivation led to some interesting thoughts about what life is all about…

Chapter 38: En route towards the best

I’m not one of the best, my abilities are not the best, thus, I’m unsuitable for the job.

Perhaps you’ve had similar doubts in your abilities before. Perhaps you also feel like you’re not good enough sometimes.
I understand and relate to this feeling, so, let’s work through these self-doubts together.

Chapter 37: Cupid and Corona

Covid has impacted on our life in many different ways, including our love life. How does the dating world render with social distancing in place? How compatible are Cupid and the Coronavirus really? This article will provide you with some answers.

Chapter 36: Inspirational pictures

Can you imagine what it must be like to face a fatal illness, to breathe death when you are only about to start life?
Would you dare to petition your local council?
And how would you feel about being treated without dignity and respect?
Think about these questions, then open the article to read about how other, today very famous people, overcame such adversity…

Chapter 35: 100 kilometres

How long does it take to travel 100 kilometres and what does it say about you, if you manage to go this distance? Find out more about my recent holiday adventures and learn about the mindset that will keep you young and fit…

Chapter 34: Are expectations eating you?

Have you ever felt as if expectations circled above you like an intimidating vulture that incessantly preys upon your every step?
What if we simply erased all expectation? Could this free us from this burdensome fear of failing, of not meeting our expectations?

Chapter 33: Battling through conflict with a new strategy

We all breathe in the world in different pulses, leading to varying expectations and beliefs. It is exactly when people’s expectations split that conflict is sure to follow. What can we do to handle conflict as best as possible? Find out more in this article…

Chapter 32: You are single?

I have been thinking about the way society treats the status of being a single a lot lately. If we carry the badge of singleness, society expects us to be actively looking for a new date. The pursuit of love seems like a sport we were all signed up for, even if the single-player mode may fit our life’s tournament better…

Chapter 31: Sexuality

In the past, my world did not accommodate any form of untraditional sexuality until it came to my awareness how unbelievably redneck my beliefs about sexes, sexuality, and genders were…

Chapter 29: I tried writing a book

At the age of 12, my mind resembled a jolly playground of spinning fantasies and swinging creativity. As my fantasy world expanded every day, I also began to knit characters and stories around it. Eventually, it became impossible for me to keep all this yarn of tales locked away in my head, and that is how I came to my first attempt of writing a book.

Chapter 28: The value of time

As 2020 warmed up to gain momentum, a sinister virus, known as Covid-19, forced the world to abruptly slow down. One might even say that the infamous Rona not only stunned normal life but stopped time altogether…

Chapter 26: Words matter

Do you believe in the power of words?
Words are never just words. Words build meaning.
Words create images.
Words evoke feelings.
Words matter because…

Chapter 25: Happiness is a mindset

Why can things not work out for me for once? You have perhaps asked yourself this question too, one time or another.

Nobody can outrun disappointment, frustration, bad luck, or loss. Yet, we chose how much we let these harbingers of unhappiness affect us, discourage us, and throw us off balance.

Chapter 24: Lessons for life (pt 1)

Being young comes with an admirable recklessness and an emotional intensity that adulthood cannot compare with. But when we are young, we are also blinded by emotion and deaf to reason. I keep browsing through my memories, with my attention especially drawn towards life choices which I now cannot identify with anymore. To ensure that my future self will not repeat these past mistakes, I have created this list of important lessons my younger self has taught me…

Chapter 23: Blueberry skies and daily routine

Good weather raises my spirit, my work attitude, my health, making me generally more productive and vitalised. Unfortunately, I cannot control the weather though. The good news is that there are other factors beside the weather that influence our state of mind, mood, attitude, wellbeing, and performance. In fact, the most influential one of them lies well within our action range. Curious to find out more about how you can you help your wellbeing and performance reach their potential?

Chapter 22: To the love of my life

Who is the love of my life?

They are the person we love, have loved, and will always love the most. They are our soulmate, our other half, the right lid to our pot.

Join me on my search for the love of my life, exploring love from new angles.

Chapter 21: I got scammed

“Usually, I can detect scams very reliably, yet, I did not catch this one. I felt helpless, lost, and unable to think or act. This was a panic attack, and I knew it was.”

Read more about my first-hand experience with a big money scam to find out about its climactic end.

Chapter 20: 1300 days of university

Reflecting upon the journey I have travelled on this road called University of Glasgow, a content smile settles on my lips. The last four years as a student seemingly passed in a heartbeat. I remember the naïve, self-centred, insecure, and biased girl from First Year who knew little about herself and others. It makes me happy to see that she has grown into a more considerate, open, and confident person over the past four years. University life been the most wonderful journey of learning new skills, discovering new passions, making new friends, and finding myself…

Chapter 19: Positivity, Growth, Communication, Diversity

Positivity, growth, communication, diversity – four words that are particularly meaningful to me. I have not only used them on the title page of my blog, I have also adopted them as my personal slogan. Why have I chosen those four words, you wonder? Check out this post to find out.

Chapter 18: Never say never

Times change. Circumstances change. Life changes. Life leads you onto unexpected paths, and before you realise, life tricked you into taking corners you believed you would never dare to cut. I went through a few unexpected turns in life – some bigger, some smaller; but they all started with heavy prejudice and stubborn beliefs, which were both largely unjustified at the time…

Chapter 17: Keeping grounded during the Corona madness

The Corona madness has reached Glasgow now too. The problem is that panic is more contagious and harmful than the virus itself. Anxiety, when escalated to panic, is very powerful. The last thing I want is to join the public panic, the mass hysteria. However, it is incredibly hard to remain calm in times like these when a pandemic has taken over.

Chapter 16: Up and down

I thought, I spice things up this week by presenting some poetry of mine. The poem in fact was written during a very emotional time.

“I go through high,
I go through low.
An ever-changing, rolling flow.
Up and down,
steep and shallow,
sometimes hard,
sometimes mellow…”

Continue reading the full poem on the post 🙂

Chapter 15: My new hobby: attending job interviews

Job interviews are quite the nerve-wracking experience. But sooner or later we all must face them. So, I decided to apply for basically any job I come across because of the experience that comes with it. Not only does it help me to improve on my job application game, it also helps me to normalise job interviews, making them a far less dreaded procedure. I hope that some of the experiences I share here may help you with your job interviews in the future.

Chapter 14: Raising Expectations

We raise expectations towards the world, towards others, and certainly towards ourselves. We raise them consciously, sometimes unconsciously. Expectations are either met or failed, and the challenge is to keep expectations realistic, so that we do not get disappointed as easily and often.

Chapter 13: Introspection

Turning inwards when you feel lost to re-discover your path ahead again, or turning inwards to make meaning of yourself and life. This chapter features two short, philosophical reflections on big questions in life, namely the search for meaning and purpose

Chapter 12: Time as our slave driver

Rushing from one event to another, chasing deadline after deadline, I find myself enslaved to time, and I am noticing the side-effects rather pronouncedly. This is the first moment in three days that I am properly calming down, taking time for myself, without the next appointment on my schedule haunting me.

Chapter 11: Facing peer pressure

We have all seen the ugly face of peer pressure before. Peer pressure is so powerful that it can make us ditch our principles, values, and habits, only because we want to belong. Facing it is not easy, but together we can do it!

Chapter 10: Q&A

36 questions to fall in love with somebody: These 36 questions where derived by science with the aim to create a conversation that can establish intimacy with anybody. So, let’s play this little game of Q&A. shall we?

Chapter 9: The journey is the destination

Recently, this saying has been on my mind a lot. Contemplating about it, I realised that as a child, even as a teenager, I never truly understood what it meant. I had not actively felt it, experienced it, embodied it, and thus, I had not understood it in its full depth.

Chapter 8: A day in the life of an artist

“I wonder what must be going on in your head to draw something like this”. That is honestly a good question. I mean, seriously, what did any artist think when they were painting?

Chapter 7: Midnight peanut butter cravings

Even though a part of me knew that I am suffering from mild anorexia, the other part of me did not want to acknowledge this. I refused to label myself as anorexic because giv.ing it a name made it concrete. There is a fair amount of inner resistance to be fought before you are ready to come to terms with the type of problem you seemingly meant to have as according to the general belief. Acknowledging and accepting the full extend of such problems is really not that easy as I can confirm.

Chapter 6: It is all about the people

2019 has been a hell of a ride, marked by immense personal growth alongside increased self-awareness. Most importantly however, this year, with all its ups and downs, could have not been so successful without the contribution of many beautiful people. What I learned from being so social is how much others mean.

Chapter 5: To my fellow perfectionists

Living life as perfectionist comes with its advantages and disadvantages. If we are not careful, we can easily end up being enslaved to our perfectionism.

Chapter 4: Living off 10 Pounds per week and other depressing student realities

I am guessing that you expect a Fresher to be careless, reckless, and inexperienced. You probably associate a Fresher with a young adult who is celebrating their freedom and rite of passage by drinking extensively and partying harder than studying. I do not intend to confirm this stereotype. Instead, I want to challenge this image of the typical life as first year student.

Chapter 3: How I wasted a day on social media stalking

The internet is a great and scary invention because the internet knows everything. No matter how hard you are trying to hide yourself, there will always be something, especially something cringy and spicy, to be found about you.